I am reading this book called "How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk" by Faber and Mazlish. It's a great book to read as a parent. As your child grows, you'll start encountering different scenarios and sometimes, or most of the time, you react as you'd always would. Me, being me, lacking in patience sometimes.. i realise i'm so not perfect, and maybe a danger to my kids, as i'm teaching them things they aren't supposed to do. It's frustrating, at certain times, i feel hopeless.
But, it's helping, this book, and it's liberating. Several times i did like what the author said, and i saw that it really2 worked, instantly. you'll see the result immediately, so you know you are on the right track! That's why i'm recommending.
Last week, Yaya's class has been changed to a new time, that does not suit hubby's timetable. But, because we'd rather go to this class, i had to bring Danish along. The arrangement was, that he would play in the toy room while we were having the class. Only after abt 10 minutes, he was already looking for me, and crying, thinking that he had been left behind. So, he joined the class. Of course it couldn't work, he's a distraction to Yaya. So i had to come up with a solution for this week.
Right after class, i talked with him, using the skills taught in the book.
Well, Danish, even though he's just 4, this is why i love this book, really you can talk to any of your children like adults.. no matter what their age. I asked that we both come up with ideas to solve the problem, really he can't be joining the class. And he did come up with ideas, eventhough i think we might not have come up with a viable solution, i think he'd understand the situation. That he needed to be outside doing something else. At the end of our discussion, i thought why don't i bring our laptop to the school so that he can play with his games. When he's playing games, time will just fly.
However, at the point we came to that solution, i was pretty okay abt him playing games. Yesterday, i came to realise, games, no matter what skills it teaches your children, is so addictive that it diminishes any advantages. So, last week's solution, well i have to still make it happen. Maybe i should asked for the class to change its time.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Danish the 4 yo..
He turned 4 recently and here are his milestones:
1) He can speak Malay and English well although his pronunciation is far from perfect, he's grammatically correct most of the time.
2) He is now learning to read. He can read short words like can, it, the, i, a, he, see, train.
3) He knows numbers up to 20.
4) Recently he got the Hijaiyah alphabets.
5) I think most importantly he's not afraid of school anymore.
1) He can speak Malay and English well although his pronunciation is far from perfect, he's grammatically correct most of the time.
2) He is now learning to read. He can read short words like can, it, the, i, a, he, see, train.
3) He knows numbers up to 20.
4) Recently he got the Hijaiyah alphabets.
5) I think most importantly he's not afraid of school anymore.
Yaya, the 2 yo..
She turned 2 last june. Her milestones are:
1) She can string 2 words together, maybe even more.. eg: Nak cucu, citer mama (meaning i can change to my channel), Papa/abang tido, pi Tesco etc.
2) She can sing, in her own version, twinkle2 little star, old macdonald, baa baa black sheep.
3) She likes to dance.. if i say "macam mana ballerina?" she'll start posing and then twirl on one foot.
4) She's so affectionate.. always hug2 and kiss2.. If i pretend to cry when she's going somewhere without me, she'll come and hug me. She have this guilt look in her face for leaving me, which causes me to stop pretending and wave bye2 with a smiling face instead.
5)She makes sure that i read at bedtime, taking her favourite books and handing them to me.
1) She can string 2 words together, maybe even more.. eg: Nak cucu, citer mama (meaning i can change to my channel), Papa/abang tido, pi Tesco etc.
2) She can sing, in her own version, twinkle2 little star, old macdonald, baa baa black sheep.
3) She likes to dance.. if i say "macam mana ballerina?" she'll start posing and then twirl on one foot.
4) She's so affectionate.. always hug2 and kiss2.. If i pretend to cry when she's going somewhere without me, she'll come and hug me. She have this guilt look in her face for leaving me, which causes me to stop pretending and wave bye2 with a smiling face instead.
5)She makes sure that i read at bedtime, taking her favourite books and handing them to me.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Yaya's 1st Class..
Enrolled Yaya at Tweedle wink. Her class is at 2.30pm for one hour.. The class is good, and well i cant say more since it's just her first class. BUT.. big but here.. The class started with only her and another girl her age. 5 mins later, a boy joined in, he is quite a senior in the class.. ie, he's been there a while. He's so playful, taking cards from the teacher and the boxes himself.. So uncontrolled, aiih.. poor the mom, surely she's been putting up with him well God knows for how long he's been that hyper.
It's distracting Yaya from the ever so calming lesson. And Yaya, seeing him doing all sorts of actions, she also couldn't sit still. Without the distraction, i think Yaya would be more cooperative. I mean yes, the class is about teaching indirectly, but she could get a bit more if there isn't any excessive noise and unnecessary actions in her peripheral vision. I'm really hoping that we can change her to a different class, which depends entirely on her Papa's class schedules.
It's distracting Yaya from the ever so calming lesson. And Yaya, seeing him doing all sorts of actions, she also couldn't sit still. Without the distraction, i think Yaya would be more cooperative. I mean yes, the class is about teaching indirectly, but she could get a bit more if there isn't any excessive noise and unnecessary actions in her peripheral vision. I'm really hoping that we can change her to a different class, which depends entirely on her Papa's class schedules.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
GA and TWink
Visited the Genius Aulad at Bdr Puteri, Puchong. Alhamdulillah, the school is much2 more appealing to not just me, but Danish as well! Alhamdulillah.. i cannot express this enuff.. His fear for school has been making me very nervous. Saw him making himself at home the minute he stepped into the school was fantastic.
What i love from the school:
1) Everything is in English.. hmm.. this will be a setback when he starts real school, cos i myself expose him less of BM books. But he speaks BM just as well.
2) They teach Iqra' at school.. I don't have to look for Iqra' class.
3) They have lots of extra activities..
4) It's clean, it looks like real school (not in houses like C*IC, P*asti), air-conditioned, well decorated for kids' preference
* Of all that, i love #2 and #4 the most.
And Danish agrees to go to school next year there.. Hopefully this remains the same until January comes.
Then we came across Tweedle Wink, which is on the same row of shops. It's a Right Brain Enrichment programme. So we took a look and inquired everything we can about the programme. Its an hour weekly programme, and urrgghh.. i so love this one too. The setback has got to be the expensive fees.
Why i really want the right brain "teaching"?
Because, right brainer is supposed to have stronger long term memory than left brainer. I remember how i sufferred from exams when i was studying. My routine before any exams was to go through evrything once again, which inevitably caused me to breakdown once in a while. I'm hoping with right brain programme, my kids would have photographic memory and wouldn't have to struggle so much like their mama.
When i talk to my mom about right brain, she immediately talks about creativity. Right brain is not just about creativity, it's about having more sensitivity towards your surrounding. Right brain kids supposedly say "Television" immediately after you show them a card that writes "Television", rather than look at the word and spell each letter out and get them together and say "Television". That kind of thing.
For more info, go to Brillbaby.com
Now, i'm torn whether i should send Danish or Yaya to the Tweedle Wink. If i send yaya, i'll be accompanying her for the sessions. 4 years above go on their own. The younger the kids the more they use their right brain, as they get older their left brain starts taking over. The balance is important. Besides i think at home, Yaya is always overshadowed. Reading a book, it's more about abang learning to read. Even if Yaya's reading with me, sometimes abang would come and blurted out the name of things i'm pointing at.
Because of the excitement the place gives (they love this one as well yesterday), and all the opinions i get so far from others in the web, i think i would end up sending both, it's so not fair if i just send one of them. I think i just want both of them to experience it on their own. It's so much fun, this place!
What i love from the school:
1) Everything is in English.. hmm.. this will be a setback when he starts real school, cos i myself expose him less of BM books. But he speaks BM just as well.
2) They teach Iqra' at school.. I don't have to look for Iqra' class.
3) They have lots of extra activities..
4) It's clean, it looks like real school (not in houses like C*IC, P*asti), air-conditioned, well decorated for kids' preference
* Of all that, i love #2 and #4 the most.
And Danish agrees to go to school next year there.. Hopefully this remains the same until January comes.
Then we came across Tweedle Wink, which is on the same row of shops. It's a Right Brain Enrichment programme. So we took a look and inquired everything we can about the programme. Its an hour weekly programme, and urrgghh.. i so love this one too. The setback has got to be the expensive fees.
Why i really want the right brain "teaching"?
Because, right brainer is supposed to have stronger long term memory than left brainer. I remember how i sufferred from exams when i was studying. My routine before any exams was to go through evrything once again, which inevitably caused me to breakdown once in a while. I'm hoping with right brain programme, my kids would have photographic memory and wouldn't have to struggle so much like their mama.
When i talk to my mom about right brain, she immediately talks about creativity. Right brain is not just about creativity, it's about having more sensitivity towards your surrounding. Right brain kids supposedly say "Television" immediately after you show them a card that writes "Television", rather than look at the word and spell each letter out and get them together and say "Television". That kind of thing.
For more info, go to Brillbaby.com
Now, i'm torn whether i should send Danish or Yaya to the Tweedle Wink. If i send yaya, i'll be accompanying her for the sessions. 4 years above go on their own. The younger the kids the more they use their right brain, as they get older their left brain starts taking over. The balance is important. Besides i think at home, Yaya is always overshadowed. Reading a book, it's more about abang learning to read. Even if Yaya's reading with me, sometimes abang would come and blurted out the name of things i'm pointing at.
Because of the excitement the place gives (they love this one as well yesterday), and all the opinions i get so far from others in the web, i think i would end up sending both, it's so not fair if i just send one of them. I think i just want both of them to experience it on their own. It's so much fun, this place!
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
20 things about Zahira
1. You were born 3 weeks earlier, since you were small and have stopped growing. The doctor was concerned if there's anything wrong.
2. You weighed 2.3kg at birth.. so tiny weeny.. huhu..
3. At birth, when we hold you upright, you liked to throw your body backwards.. like a somersault.
4. I think you'll be a good swimmer, cos you crawled so swiftly as if you were in water..
5. Your words are: Aepin- airplane, Aepen- Elephant, Mama, Papa, Abang, Anis- Danish, Nenek, Tukpa, TukMa, Baby, Cucu-susu, Cartoon, atit - Sakit, Atuh - Jatuh.
6. Your favourite telling people off phrase is "Don't touch!".
7. You call Abang in a special intonation: Aaabang.. all the time, and it sounds like me calling him when i'm angry.
8. These days, you ask for susu all the time.. Possibly twice in an hour. You diapers are always soaked.
9. When you ask for susu, you beg and beg, half crying.. but when i say okay, and i start moving to the kitchen, you smile with your tongue sticking out, in such a cheeky way.. a sign that you succeed perhaps?
10. When susu is ready, you'll run to me and hug my legs.. auww.. i love that.. Thank you princess! Makes me wanna make susu all the time .. (hehe, not really).
11. You always say "atik" means cantik, no matter what i wear.. Kecik2 dah pandai nak amik hati..
12. Sometimes you defend abang, sometimes you defend me, depends on why i scold abang for.
13. You have never kissed me or anyone else for that matter, because everytime we ask yo to kiss, all we get is your cheek to be kissed.
14. When mama and papa go for prayers at IKEA or any shopping malls, we took one of you. When we meet up again, you and abang will run to each other and hug.. ?? Lamanyer terpisah ye..
15. Two commercials' songs you cannot stay still when they are on are MYEG and Worldcup on Astro.
16. You dance like happy feet.. so fast.
17. When you read a book, instead of me asking you what this and that was, you are like a teacher asking me in a test. Who's the one learning actually?
18. Your reaction towards water and wind is the same.. excitement!
19. You like to eat by yourself. which is little which is worrying.. Whenever i feed you these days, you'd say pedas.. which is ridiculous. I think you are confused between panas and pedas.
20. You love mama, papa and abang.. don't you?! (so running out of ideas)
2. You weighed 2.3kg at birth.. so tiny weeny.. huhu..
3. At birth, when we hold you upright, you liked to throw your body backwards.. like a somersault.
4. I think you'll be a good swimmer, cos you crawled so swiftly as if you were in water..
5. Your words are: Aepin- airplane, Aepen- Elephant, Mama, Papa, Abang, Anis- Danish, Nenek, Tukpa, TukMa, Baby, Cucu-susu, Cartoon, atit - Sakit, Atuh - Jatuh.
6. Your favourite telling people off phrase is "Don't touch!".
7. You call Abang in a special intonation: Aaabang.. all the time, and it sounds like me calling him when i'm angry.
8. These days, you ask for susu all the time.. Possibly twice in an hour. You diapers are always soaked.
9. When you ask for susu, you beg and beg, half crying.. but when i say okay, and i start moving to the kitchen, you smile with your tongue sticking out, in such a cheeky way.. a sign that you succeed perhaps?
10. When susu is ready, you'll run to me and hug my legs.. auww.. i love that.. Thank you princess! Makes me wanna make susu all the time .. (hehe, not really).
11. You always say "atik" means cantik, no matter what i wear.. Kecik2 dah pandai nak amik hati..
12. Sometimes you defend abang, sometimes you defend me, depends on why i scold abang for.
13. You have never kissed me or anyone else for that matter, because everytime we ask yo to kiss, all we get is your cheek to be kissed.
14. When mama and papa go for prayers at IKEA or any shopping malls, we took one of you. When we meet up again, you and abang will run to each other and hug.. ?? Lamanyer terpisah ye..
15. Two commercials' songs you cannot stay still when they are on are MYEG and Worldcup on Astro.
16. You dance like happy feet.. so fast.
17. When you read a book, instead of me asking you what this and that was, you are like a teacher asking me in a test. Who's the one learning actually?
18. Your reaction towards water and wind is the same.. excitement!
19. You like to eat by yourself. which is little which is worrying.. Whenever i feed you these days, you'd say pedas.. which is ridiculous. I think you are confused between panas and pedas.
20. You love mama, papa and abang.. don't you?! (so running out of ideas)
Monday, June 28, 2010
Scouting
Went around the area looking for preschool for whoelse..
Found the PASTI and CIC that i was researching.. As expected. Not too appealing.
Danish was getting agitated, cos he realized what we were doing. Many tsk..tsk.. and i'm sleepy, nak balik stuff.. The thing is, since the preschool is house-based, they look so much like his last nursery. I got so worried.. I know that once he is started, hopefully it will crash all his previous thoughts.. We got to get it right this time. Last time was a mistake, which i don't want to repeat. When it comes to kids, only their papas and mamas have good interests.
Found the PASTI and CIC that i was researching.. As expected. Not too appealing.
Danish was getting agitated, cos he realized what we were doing. Many tsk..tsk.. and i'm sleepy, nak balik stuff.. The thing is, since the preschool is house-based, they look so much like his last nursery. I got so worried.. I know that once he is started, hopefully it will crash all his previous thoughts.. We got to get it right this time. Last time was a mistake, which i don't want to repeat. When it comes to kids, only their papas and mamas have good interests.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Rain..
Today, Danish spoke about how rain is formed.. SOmething like this:
"Mama, the cloud is black sebab ada air dlm dia. Pastu, air keluar dr bawah dia, jadi hujan." Must be from some tv programmes he's been watching. ALhamdulillah, the fact that he can learn something.
We went to the library today. It would be a weekly activity InsyaAllah.
I want to find a cassette on Ayat2 Lazim, so that i can play it when we are driving to Tesco or sth. I hope that Allah will help him in memorising surahs in the Quran. InsyaAllah.
"Mama, the cloud is black sebab ada air dlm dia. Pastu, air keluar dr bawah dia, jadi hujan." Must be from some tv programmes he's been watching. ALhamdulillah, the fact that he can learn something.
We went to the library today. It would be a weekly activity InsyaAllah.
I want to find a cassette on Ayat2 Lazim, so that i can play it when we are driving to Tesco or sth. I hope that Allah will help him in memorising surahs in the Quran. InsyaAllah.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Short span
Attention span is short for a 4 year old. And the house is not conducive place to learn. I should know that, all my life i sat in libraries to study. Besides, he's too used to watching tv at home. Tv itself is not such a bad influence for him. PHDC has taught him a lot.. repeating the same story over and over helps him learn more.
Yesterday, i tried to teach him a bit from the new book. Not really teaching, was more of indirect teaching. WHich kind of work in a way.. he learnt 4 words.. Today, more of reinforcing the words to him.. and later adding more words.
Yesterday, i tried to teach him a bit from the new book. Not really teaching, was more of indirect teaching. WHich kind of work in a way.. he learnt 4 words.. Today, more of reinforcing the words to him.. and later adding more words.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
High Frequency Words
Got a book for Danish at Po*pular bookstore. I got intimidated by the preschoolers' books there. It says on the book that it's for 4-6 year olds. Wokey.. I don't think it would be easy, but children amaze you beyond your wildest dreams. So we took the challenge. Besides, all this while we've been buying puzzles, number flashcards that he couldn't do by himself, but he can now.. It shows when they get exposed they can. We bought "High Frequency Words". Comes with flash cards. Very organized way of teaching. And something that i thought should be a good start for him.
Last night we tried to teach him with the new book, difficult. The TV was on, adik is around, papa's around.Too may distractions.. He didn't want to learn.. It just goes to show that when he's not into it, nothing you can do. At this particular time, i thought yeah, schools would be good for him. Another thing, he likes to say "I can't do it", when i say "you can!" He says "I can't!" (I really wanted to laugh but i had to tackle this problem first).Of course you can .. InsyaAllah.
He loves books, but he likes us to read for him. Except for the Colours in the Jungle book that he memorized, he loves listening to them. We are trying as much as we can to help him spell the easy words now.. Just to get him to know the normal sound for the alphabet.
Last night we tried to teach him with the new book, difficult. The TV was on, adik is around, papa's around.Too may distractions.. He didn't want to learn.. It just goes to show that when he's not into it, nothing you can do. At this particular time, i thought yeah, schools would be good for him. Another thing, he likes to say "I can't do it", when i say "you can!" He says "I can't!" (I really wanted to laugh but i had to tackle this problem first).Of course you can .. InsyaAllah.
He loves books, but he likes us to read for him. Except for the Colours in the Jungle book that he memorized, he loves listening to them. We are trying as much as we can to help him spell the easy words now.. Just to get him to know the normal sound for the alphabet.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Ideas for Let's Pretend..
Indoor Picnic
What you'll need
Tablecloth
A sheet or blanket
Food
A picnic basket
Plates
Silverware
Napkins
What you'll need
Tablecloth
A sheet or blanket
Food
A picnic basket
Plates
Silverware
Napkins
Tips melayan anak
Adalah mudah iaitu:-Winners percayakan diri mereka dan boleh membayangkan diri Mereka dikalangan orang yang berjaya sementara losers merasakan diri Mereka tidak boleh.
Tips;1. Mulakanlah hidup anak anda dengan nama panggilan yang baik. Nama panggilan yang kurang baik akan menyebabkan anak anda malu dan merasa rendah diri.. (Dalam Islam sendiri nama panggilanyang baik adalah digalakkan).
2. Berikan anak anda pelukkan setiap hari (Kajian menunjukkan anak yang dipeluk setiap hari akan mempunyai kekuatan IQ yg lebih kuat daripada anak yang jarang dipeluk)
3. Pandanglah anak anda dengan pandangan kasih sayang (Pandangan ini akan membuatkan anak anda lebih yakin diri apabila berhadapan dengan persekitaran)
4. Berikan peneguhan setiap kali anak anda berbuat kebaikan (Berilah pujian, pelukkan, ciuman, hadiah ataupun sekurang-kurangnya senyuman untuk setiap kebaikan yang dilakukannya) .
5. Janganlah mengharapkan anak anda yang belum matang itu melakukan sesuatu perbuatan baik secara berterusan , mereka hanya kanak-kanak yang sedang berkembang. Perkembangan mereka buatkan mereka ingin mengalami setiap perkara termasuklah berbuat silap.
6. Apabila anda berhadapan dengan masalah kerja dan keluarga,pilihlah keluarga (Seorang penulis menyatakan anak-anak terus membesar. Masa itu terus berlalu dan tak akan kembali).
7. Di dalam membesarkan dan mendidik anak-anak, janganlah tuan/puan mengeluh . Keluhan akan membuatkan anak-anak merasakan diri mereka beban......
8. Dengarlah cerita anak anda, cerita itu tak akan dapat anda dengari lagi pada masa akan datang. Tunggu giliran anda untuk bercakap (Ini akan mengajar anak anda tentang giliran untuk bercakap)
9. Tenangkan anak anda setiap kali mereka memerlukannya .
10. Tunjukkan kepada anak anda bagaimana cara untuk menenangkan diri . Mereka akan menirunya.
11. Buatkan sedikit persediaan untuk anak-anak menyambut harijadinya ..Sediakanlah hadiah harijadi yang unik walaupun harganya murah.Keunikan akan membuatkan anak anda belajar menghargai. (Anak2 ygdtg daripada persekitaran yang menghargai akan belajar menghargai orang lain).
12...... Kemungkinan anak kita menerima pengajaran bukan pada kali pertama belajar. Mereka mungkin memerlukan kita mengajar mereka lebih daripada sekali .
13. Luangkanlah masa bersama anak anda diluar rumah, peganglah tangan anak-anak apabila anda berjalan dengan mereka . Mereka tentu akan merasa kepentingan kehadiran mereka dalam kehidupan andasuami isteri.
14. Dengarlah mimpi ngeri anak-anak anda . Mimpi ngeri mereka adalah begitu real dalam dunia mereka..
15....Hargailah permainan kesayangan anak anda . Mereka juga dalam masa yang sama akan menghargai barang-barang kesayangan anda. Elakkan daripada membuang barang kesayangan mereka walaupun sudah rosak. Mintalah kebenaran mereka sebelum berbuat demikian.
16. Janganlah membiarkan anak-anak anda tidur tanpa ciuman selamat malam,
17. Terimalah yang kadangkala anda bukanlah ibubapa yang sempurna . Ini akan mengurangkan stress menjadi ibu bapa.
18. Jangan selalu membawa bebanan kerja pejabat ke rumah. Anak-anak akan belajar bahawa kerja pejabat selalunya lebih penting daripada keluarga.
19. Anak menangis untuk melegakan keresahan mereka tetapi kadangkala cuma untuk sound effect sahaja . Bagaimanapun dengarilah mereka, dua puluh tahun dari sekarang anda pula yang akan menangis apabila rumah
20. Anak-anak juga mempunyai perasaan seperti anda .
http://halwatuliman.blogspot.com/2009/08/tip-melayan-anak.html
Tips;1. Mulakanlah hidup anak anda dengan nama panggilan yang baik. Nama panggilan yang kurang baik akan menyebabkan anak anda malu dan merasa rendah diri.. (Dalam Islam sendiri nama panggilanyang baik adalah digalakkan).
2. Berikan anak anda pelukkan setiap hari (Kajian menunjukkan anak yang dipeluk setiap hari akan mempunyai kekuatan IQ yg lebih kuat daripada anak yang jarang dipeluk)
3. Pandanglah anak anda dengan pandangan kasih sayang (Pandangan ini akan membuatkan anak anda lebih yakin diri apabila berhadapan dengan persekitaran)
4. Berikan peneguhan setiap kali anak anda berbuat kebaikan (Berilah pujian, pelukkan, ciuman, hadiah ataupun sekurang-kurangnya senyuman untuk setiap kebaikan yang dilakukannya) .
5. Janganlah mengharapkan anak anda yang belum matang itu melakukan sesuatu perbuatan baik secara berterusan , mereka hanya kanak-kanak yang sedang berkembang. Perkembangan mereka buatkan mereka ingin mengalami setiap perkara termasuklah berbuat silap.
6. Apabila anda berhadapan dengan masalah kerja dan keluarga,pilihlah keluarga (Seorang penulis menyatakan anak-anak terus membesar. Masa itu terus berlalu dan tak akan kembali).
7. Di dalam membesarkan dan mendidik anak-anak, janganlah tuan/puan mengeluh . Keluhan akan membuatkan anak-anak merasakan diri mereka beban......
8. Dengarlah cerita anak anda, cerita itu tak akan dapat anda dengari lagi pada masa akan datang. Tunggu giliran anda untuk bercakap (Ini akan mengajar anak anda tentang giliran untuk bercakap)
9. Tenangkan anak anda setiap kali mereka memerlukannya .
10. Tunjukkan kepada anak anda bagaimana cara untuk menenangkan diri . Mereka akan menirunya.
11. Buatkan sedikit persediaan untuk anak-anak menyambut harijadinya ..Sediakanlah hadiah harijadi yang unik walaupun harganya murah.Keunikan akan membuatkan anak anda belajar menghargai. (Anak2 ygdtg daripada persekitaran yang menghargai akan belajar menghargai orang lain).
12...... Kemungkinan anak kita menerima pengajaran bukan pada kali pertama belajar. Mereka mungkin memerlukan kita mengajar mereka lebih daripada sekali .
13. Luangkanlah masa bersama anak anda diluar rumah, peganglah tangan anak-anak apabila anda berjalan dengan mereka . Mereka tentu akan merasa kepentingan kehadiran mereka dalam kehidupan andasuami isteri.
14. Dengarlah mimpi ngeri anak-anak anda . Mimpi ngeri mereka adalah begitu real dalam dunia mereka..
15....Hargailah permainan kesayangan anak anda . Mereka juga dalam masa yang sama akan menghargai barang-barang kesayangan anda. Elakkan daripada membuang barang kesayangan mereka walaupun sudah rosak. Mintalah kebenaran mereka sebelum berbuat demikian.
16. Janganlah membiarkan anak-anak anda tidur tanpa ciuman selamat malam,
17. Terimalah yang kadangkala anda bukanlah ibubapa yang sempurna . Ini akan mengurangkan stress menjadi ibu bapa.
18. Jangan selalu membawa bebanan kerja pejabat ke rumah. Anak-anak akan belajar bahawa kerja pejabat selalunya lebih penting daripada keluarga.
19. Anak menangis untuk melegakan keresahan mereka tetapi kadangkala cuma untuk sound effect sahaja . Bagaimanapun dengarilah mereka, dua puluh tahun dari sekarang anda pula yang akan menangis apabila rumah
20. Anak-anak juga mempunyai perasaan seperti anda .
http://halwatuliman.blogspot.com/2009/08/tip-melayan-anak.html
How to make spelling easy for your kids
Simple Kids' Activities with Short Vowel Words
Nov 6, 2008 Kalyani Candade
The most effective tool to good spelling is an amazingly simple one: "Open your mouth and say the word".
English spelling is actually not difficult, once the logic is clear. While many spellings are phonetic and are spelt as they are spoken, the confusion arises from groups of words that are drawn from different European languages. Here are some simple exercises you can do with your child to create strong fundamentals.
Make your Child Say the Word Aloud
This is the golden key that can unlock the secrets of the English alphabet. Say the words aloud with your child, play with the sounds of the alphabets, show him or her how the shape of the mouth correlates with the sound made.
Start with the Vowels, the Triangular "A"
Identify about five words with a similar "A" sound and make her repeat the words, for example: Hay, May, Gay, Day, Way. Let her get familiar with the sound of "A". Demonstrate the triangular shape the mouth makes when you say the "A". Experiment with the changing sounds when the shape of the mouth changes. Move slowly into a long "aah", and start making a list of words with that sound; like Car, Bar, Mar, Par, Far. Play around with the many different sounds of "A". You could act, or mime, if you feel like it. Have fun!
Move on to the Circular "O"
After a while, turn the "A"’ into a slow "aaaoooo’"and then make a full "O". Talk about how the mouth makes a complete circle. Move to "O" words. For your examples, use short "O" words like Hot, Got, Dot, Pot, Rot.
Smile your Way into a Wide "E"
When you’re finished with "O", stretch your mouth into a wide smile, and move into an "eeee". Point out the shape of the mouth and the correlation with the sound. Use words with a double "E" for your examples: Feet, Meet, Sweet, Greet, Beet.
Then, slowly, mouth still open in a smile, shorten the 'ee' sound to an ‘eh’. Move to words like Pet, Bet, Red, Ten, Pen. Discuss how the shape of the mouth stays the same, but the sound is shortened.
Experiment with the Shape of "I"
After "E", it’s time to move into the slightly less defined "I". Continue the exercise. Discover, along with your child, how the shape of the mouth changes to make the various "I".sounds. For your examples, use words making the short "I". sound; Bit, Kit, Hit, Pit, Lit. Highlight the plosive "I".; play around with the short, expulsive sound and maybe create simple mimes around it.
Discover the fun of the Pursed "U"
Introduce the "Ooh" sound dramatically. Make a long, drawn out sound complete with pursed mouth, and make your child do the same. Repeat it a couple of times for effect and fun. Then create your words; use the long "ue" words to demonstrate the sound of "U"; Blue, True, Glue, Cue, Hue. Explain that "U" often likes to have another vowel along for company. Do not tackle the odd "U" words like "but" and "put" at this stage.
Repeat the Activity and Make it a Game
At the end of this exercise, your child should have a fair understanding of the standard sounds of the vowels, and should begin to enjoy vocalizing the sounds and understanding how they work. It is important that the word groups that you choose should be standard and easy to follow; do not introduce odd spellings or exceptions right now. Repeat this a couple of times, always taking care to choose a simple and predictable set of words. Catch the odd moment, throw it around, surprise each other. Once your child starts enjoying the game, it’s time to move on to activities with vowel combinations like the long "ee" diagraph , the long "a" sound and the long "o" diagraph.
Read more at Suite101: How to Make Spelling Easy for Children: Simple Kids' Activities with Short Vowel Words http://kids-educational-activities.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_to_make_spelling_easy_for_children#ixzz0rG0MLDqj
Nov 6, 2008 Kalyani Candade
The most effective tool to good spelling is an amazingly simple one: "Open your mouth and say the word".
English spelling is actually not difficult, once the logic is clear. While many spellings are phonetic and are spelt as they are spoken, the confusion arises from groups of words that are drawn from different European languages. Here are some simple exercises you can do with your child to create strong fundamentals.
Make your Child Say the Word Aloud
This is the golden key that can unlock the secrets of the English alphabet. Say the words aloud with your child, play with the sounds of the alphabets, show him or her how the shape of the mouth correlates with the sound made.
Start with the Vowels, the Triangular "A"
Identify about five words with a similar "A" sound and make her repeat the words, for example: Hay, May, Gay, Day, Way. Let her get familiar with the sound of "A". Demonstrate the triangular shape the mouth makes when you say the "A". Experiment with the changing sounds when the shape of the mouth changes. Move slowly into a long "aah", and start making a list of words with that sound; like Car, Bar, Mar, Par, Far. Play around with the many different sounds of "A". You could act, or mime, if you feel like it. Have fun!
Move on to the Circular "O"
After a while, turn the "A"’ into a slow "aaaoooo’"and then make a full "O". Talk about how the mouth makes a complete circle. Move to "O" words. For your examples, use short "O" words like Hot, Got, Dot, Pot, Rot.
Smile your Way into a Wide "E"
When you’re finished with "O", stretch your mouth into a wide smile, and move into an "eeee". Point out the shape of the mouth and the correlation with the sound. Use words with a double "E" for your examples: Feet, Meet, Sweet, Greet, Beet.
Then, slowly, mouth still open in a smile, shorten the 'ee' sound to an ‘eh’. Move to words like Pet, Bet, Red, Ten, Pen. Discuss how the shape of the mouth stays the same, but the sound is shortened.
Experiment with the Shape of "I"
After "E", it’s time to move into the slightly less defined "I". Continue the exercise. Discover, along with your child, how the shape of the mouth changes to make the various "I".sounds. For your examples, use words making the short "I". sound; Bit, Kit, Hit, Pit, Lit. Highlight the plosive "I".; play around with the short, expulsive sound and maybe create simple mimes around it.
Discover the fun of the Pursed "U"
Introduce the "Ooh" sound dramatically. Make a long, drawn out sound complete with pursed mouth, and make your child do the same. Repeat it a couple of times for effect and fun. Then create your words; use the long "ue" words to demonstrate the sound of "U"; Blue, True, Glue, Cue, Hue. Explain that "U" often likes to have another vowel along for company. Do not tackle the odd "U" words like "but" and "put" at this stage.
Repeat the Activity and Make it a Game
At the end of this exercise, your child should have a fair understanding of the standard sounds of the vowels, and should begin to enjoy vocalizing the sounds and understanding how they work. It is important that the word groups that you choose should be standard and easy to follow; do not introduce odd spellings or exceptions right now. Repeat this a couple of times, always taking care to choose a simple and predictable set of words. Catch the odd moment, throw it around, surprise each other. Once your child starts enjoying the game, it’s time to move on to activities with vowel combinations like the long "ee" diagraph , the long "a" sound and the long "o" diagraph.
Read more at Suite101: How to Make Spelling Easy for Children: Simple Kids' Activities with Short Vowel Words http://kids-educational-activities.suite101.com/article.cfm/how_to_make_spelling_easy_for_children#ixzz0rG0MLDqj
Anxiety
When it comes to sending Danish to school, i'm just as anxious as him. I think Papa doesn't understand this as much. I sent him to nursery everyday last year. I can feel his agony of being sent away. Is it because of my own experience as a child? I hated being sent from one place to another, it was ever changing. Why couldn't i just stay at my own house? My mom worked at the time. Of course we got sent away. But i'm a sahm.. so why should my kids get sent away?
I get it that Danish should go to preschool before he enters the real school. I went to preschool myself, at 6 years of age. During our time, u don't even have to go to tadika. Teachers teach u how to read in Standard 1. I heard they don't do this these days, cos they assumed every kid has gone to tadika. Ni pun i have fear jugak. But Danish knows the alphabet since he was 2. InsyaAllah he'll be able to read by the time he's 6. I'm not trying to make him a genius since he's 4. I want him to be able to enjoy his childhood.
I get it that Danish should go to preschool before he enters the real school. I went to preschool myself, at 6 years of age. During our time, u don't even have to go to tadika. Teachers teach u how to read in Standard 1. I heard they don't do this these days, cos they assumed every kid has gone to tadika. Ni pun i have fear jugak. But Danish knows the alphabet since he was 2. InsyaAllah he'll be able to read by the time he's 6. I'm not trying to make him a genius since he's 4. I want him to be able to enjoy his childhood.
1st entry..
I create this blog so i can list down the things i can do to help Danish learn before he's going to preschool. For me he should go to school when he's 6yo. He's now 4. Papa wants him to go to school, so he gets stimulation. As I am just 1 half, i should listen to him. He's the dad, and he is actually more often right than me.
So, i've been scouting around for kindies in our area.. We want an islamic ones. Found a few: Genius Au*lad, PASTI, CIC.
Genius A*ulad: Located near Maybank Bandar Puteri (quite a distance there to drive him everyday), it's on the top floor of the shoplot. I'm a bit wary about the conduciveness, when you are so confined in a building like that. I think the fee is quite expensive too. From photos, i really don't like the ambience. But they said i can come next week and see their classes in progress. The classes are done twice daily, you can choose 8.30-11.30 am or 1.30pm to 4.30pm.
PASTI: stands for Pusat Asuhan Tunas Islam. I think they have 10 branches just in Puchong itself. The nearest to us is Puchong Utama (PASTI AS Syifaa). This one is a kindie in residential area. ie. it's done in a house.. just as many kindies these days are. I don't like this one too, because of this. But i've got to go and see it for myself..
CIC: Childre*n Is*lamic Cen*tre. This one disappointed me.. I thought it's a big school, but it's the same.. in a house kindie. From the photos, it looked too crowded. It's quite expensive too.. And it's a franchise again. Compared to As SYifaa, i like As Syifaa better.
In fact there is an islamic preschool nearer to my house. But that one really have a bad connotation to Danish. SO i dare not send him there. That preschool is so near his previous nursery. He hated the nursery, just by going there makes him anxious. I don't want to go back there. It would just strengthen his fear of school.
So, i've been scouting around for kindies in our area.. We want an islamic ones. Found a few: Genius Au*lad, PASTI, CIC.
Genius A*ulad: Located near Maybank Bandar Puteri (quite a distance there to drive him everyday), it's on the top floor of the shoplot. I'm a bit wary about the conduciveness, when you are so confined in a building like that. I think the fee is quite expensive too. From photos, i really don't like the ambience. But they said i can come next week and see their classes in progress. The classes are done twice daily, you can choose 8.30-11.30 am or 1.30pm to 4.30pm.
PASTI: stands for Pusat Asuhan Tunas Islam. I think they have 10 branches just in Puchong itself. The nearest to us is Puchong Utama (PASTI AS Syifaa). This one is a kindie in residential area. ie. it's done in a house.. just as many kindies these days are. I don't like this one too, because of this. But i've got to go and see it for myself..
CIC: Childre*n Is*lamic Cen*tre. This one disappointed me.. I thought it's a big school, but it's the same.. in a house kindie. From the photos, it looked too crowded. It's quite expensive too.. And it's a franchise again. Compared to As SYifaa, i like As Syifaa better.
In fact there is an islamic preschool nearer to my house. But that one really have a bad connotation to Danish. SO i dare not send him there. That preschool is so near his previous nursery. He hated the nursery, just by going there makes him anxious. I don't want to go back there. It would just strengthen his fear of school.
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