I am reading this book called "How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk" by Faber and Mazlish. It's a great book to read as a parent. As your child grows, you'll start encountering different scenarios and sometimes, or most of the time, you react as you'd always would. Me, being me, lacking in patience sometimes.. i realise i'm so not perfect, and maybe a danger to my kids, as i'm teaching them things they aren't supposed to do. It's frustrating, at certain times, i feel hopeless.
But, it's helping, this book, and it's liberating. Several times i did like what the author said, and i saw that it really2 worked, instantly. you'll see the result immediately, so you know you are on the right track! That's why i'm recommending.
Last week, Yaya's class has been changed to a new time, that does not suit hubby's timetable. But, because we'd rather go to this class, i had to bring Danish along. The arrangement was, that he would play in the toy room while we were having the class. Only after abt 10 minutes, he was already looking for me, and crying, thinking that he had been left behind. So, he joined the class. Of course it couldn't work, he's a distraction to Yaya. So i had to come up with a solution for this week.
Right after class, i talked with him, using the skills taught in the book.
Well, Danish, even though he's just 4, this is why i love this book, really you can talk to any of your children like adults.. no matter what their age. I asked that we both come up with ideas to solve the problem, really he can't be joining the class. And he did come up with ideas, eventhough i think we might not have come up with a viable solution, i think he'd understand the situation. That he needed to be outside doing something else. At the end of our discussion, i thought why don't i bring our laptop to the school so that he can play with his games. When he's playing games, time will just fly.
However, at the point we came to that solution, i was pretty okay abt him playing games. Yesterday, i came to realise, games, no matter what skills it teaches your children, is so addictive that it diminishes any advantages. So, last week's solution, well i have to still make it happen. Maybe i should asked for the class to change its time.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Danish the 4 yo..
He turned 4 recently and here are his milestones:
1) He can speak Malay and English well although his pronunciation is far from perfect, he's grammatically correct most of the time.
2) He is now learning to read. He can read short words like can, it, the, i, a, he, see, train.
3) He knows numbers up to 20.
4) Recently he got the Hijaiyah alphabets.
5) I think most importantly he's not afraid of school anymore.
1) He can speak Malay and English well although his pronunciation is far from perfect, he's grammatically correct most of the time.
2) He is now learning to read. He can read short words like can, it, the, i, a, he, see, train.
3) He knows numbers up to 20.
4) Recently he got the Hijaiyah alphabets.
5) I think most importantly he's not afraid of school anymore.
Yaya, the 2 yo..
She turned 2 last june. Her milestones are:
1) She can string 2 words together, maybe even more.. eg: Nak cucu, citer mama (meaning i can change to my channel), Papa/abang tido, pi Tesco etc.
2) She can sing, in her own version, twinkle2 little star, old macdonald, baa baa black sheep.
3) She likes to dance.. if i say "macam mana ballerina?" she'll start posing and then twirl on one foot.
4) She's so affectionate.. always hug2 and kiss2.. If i pretend to cry when she's going somewhere without me, she'll come and hug me. She have this guilt look in her face for leaving me, which causes me to stop pretending and wave bye2 with a smiling face instead.
5)She makes sure that i read at bedtime, taking her favourite books and handing them to me.
1) She can string 2 words together, maybe even more.. eg: Nak cucu, citer mama (meaning i can change to my channel), Papa/abang tido, pi Tesco etc.
2) She can sing, in her own version, twinkle2 little star, old macdonald, baa baa black sheep.
3) She likes to dance.. if i say "macam mana ballerina?" she'll start posing and then twirl on one foot.
4) She's so affectionate.. always hug2 and kiss2.. If i pretend to cry when she's going somewhere without me, she'll come and hug me. She have this guilt look in her face for leaving me, which causes me to stop pretending and wave bye2 with a smiling face instead.
5)She makes sure that i read at bedtime, taking her favourite books and handing them to me.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Yaya's 1st Class..
Enrolled Yaya at Tweedle wink. Her class is at 2.30pm for one hour.. The class is good, and well i cant say more since it's just her first class. BUT.. big but here.. The class started with only her and another girl her age. 5 mins later, a boy joined in, he is quite a senior in the class.. ie, he's been there a while. He's so playful, taking cards from the teacher and the boxes himself.. So uncontrolled, aiih.. poor the mom, surely she's been putting up with him well God knows for how long he's been that hyper.
It's distracting Yaya from the ever so calming lesson. And Yaya, seeing him doing all sorts of actions, she also couldn't sit still. Without the distraction, i think Yaya would be more cooperative. I mean yes, the class is about teaching indirectly, but she could get a bit more if there isn't any excessive noise and unnecessary actions in her peripheral vision. I'm really hoping that we can change her to a different class, which depends entirely on her Papa's class schedules.
It's distracting Yaya from the ever so calming lesson. And Yaya, seeing him doing all sorts of actions, she also couldn't sit still. Without the distraction, i think Yaya would be more cooperative. I mean yes, the class is about teaching indirectly, but she could get a bit more if there isn't any excessive noise and unnecessary actions in her peripheral vision. I'm really hoping that we can change her to a different class, which depends entirely on her Papa's class schedules.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
GA and TWink
Visited the Genius Aulad at Bdr Puteri, Puchong. Alhamdulillah, the school is much2 more appealing to not just me, but Danish as well! Alhamdulillah.. i cannot express this enuff.. His fear for school has been making me very nervous. Saw him making himself at home the minute he stepped into the school was fantastic.
What i love from the school:
1) Everything is in English.. hmm.. this will be a setback when he starts real school, cos i myself expose him less of BM books. But he speaks BM just as well.
2) They teach Iqra' at school.. I don't have to look for Iqra' class.
3) They have lots of extra activities..
4) It's clean, it looks like real school (not in houses like C*IC, P*asti), air-conditioned, well decorated for kids' preference
* Of all that, i love #2 and #4 the most.
And Danish agrees to go to school next year there.. Hopefully this remains the same until January comes.
Then we came across Tweedle Wink, which is on the same row of shops. It's a Right Brain Enrichment programme. So we took a look and inquired everything we can about the programme. Its an hour weekly programme, and urrgghh.. i so love this one too. The setback has got to be the expensive fees.
Why i really want the right brain "teaching"?
Because, right brainer is supposed to have stronger long term memory than left brainer. I remember how i sufferred from exams when i was studying. My routine before any exams was to go through evrything once again, which inevitably caused me to breakdown once in a while. I'm hoping with right brain programme, my kids would have photographic memory and wouldn't have to struggle so much like their mama.
When i talk to my mom about right brain, she immediately talks about creativity. Right brain is not just about creativity, it's about having more sensitivity towards your surrounding. Right brain kids supposedly say "Television" immediately after you show them a card that writes "Television", rather than look at the word and spell each letter out and get them together and say "Television". That kind of thing.
For more info, go to Brillbaby.com
Now, i'm torn whether i should send Danish or Yaya to the Tweedle Wink. If i send yaya, i'll be accompanying her for the sessions. 4 years above go on their own. The younger the kids the more they use their right brain, as they get older their left brain starts taking over. The balance is important. Besides i think at home, Yaya is always overshadowed. Reading a book, it's more about abang learning to read. Even if Yaya's reading with me, sometimes abang would come and blurted out the name of things i'm pointing at.
Because of the excitement the place gives (they love this one as well yesterday), and all the opinions i get so far from others in the web, i think i would end up sending both, it's so not fair if i just send one of them. I think i just want both of them to experience it on their own. It's so much fun, this place!
What i love from the school:
1) Everything is in English.. hmm.. this will be a setback when he starts real school, cos i myself expose him less of BM books. But he speaks BM just as well.
2) They teach Iqra' at school.. I don't have to look for Iqra' class.
3) They have lots of extra activities..
4) It's clean, it looks like real school (not in houses like C*IC, P*asti), air-conditioned, well decorated for kids' preference
* Of all that, i love #2 and #4 the most.
And Danish agrees to go to school next year there.. Hopefully this remains the same until January comes.
Then we came across Tweedle Wink, which is on the same row of shops. It's a Right Brain Enrichment programme. So we took a look and inquired everything we can about the programme. Its an hour weekly programme, and urrgghh.. i so love this one too. The setback has got to be the expensive fees.
Why i really want the right brain "teaching"?
Because, right brainer is supposed to have stronger long term memory than left brainer. I remember how i sufferred from exams when i was studying. My routine before any exams was to go through evrything once again, which inevitably caused me to breakdown once in a while. I'm hoping with right brain programme, my kids would have photographic memory and wouldn't have to struggle so much like their mama.
When i talk to my mom about right brain, she immediately talks about creativity. Right brain is not just about creativity, it's about having more sensitivity towards your surrounding. Right brain kids supposedly say "Television" immediately after you show them a card that writes "Television", rather than look at the word and spell each letter out and get them together and say "Television". That kind of thing.
For more info, go to Brillbaby.com
Now, i'm torn whether i should send Danish or Yaya to the Tweedle Wink. If i send yaya, i'll be accompanying her for the sessions. 4 years above go on their own. The younger the kids the more they use their right brain, as they get older their left brain starts taking over. The balance is important. Besides i think at home, Yaya is always overshadowed. Reading a book, it's more about abang learning to read. Even if Yaya's reading with me, sometimes abang would come and blurted out the name of things i'm pointing at.
Because of the excitement the place gives (they love this one as well yesterday), and all the opinions i get so far from others in the web, i think i would end up sending both, it's so not fair if i just send one of them. I think i just want both of them to experience it on their own. It's so much fun, this place!
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
20 things about Zahira
1. You were born 3 weeks earlier, since you were small and have stopped growing. The doctor was concerned if there's anything wrong.
2. You weighed 2.3kg at birth.. so tiny weeny.. huhu..
3. At birth, when we hold you upright, you liked to throw your body backwards.. like a somersault.
4. I think you'll be a good swimmer, cos you crawled so swiftly as if you were in water..
5. Your words are: Aepin- airplane, Aepen- Elephant, Mama, Papa, Abang, Anis- Danish, Nenek, Tukpa, TukMa, Baby, Cucu-susu, Cartoon, atit - Sakit, Atuh - Jatuh.
6. Your favourite telling people off phrase is "Don't touch!".
7. You call Abang in a special intonation: Aaabang.. all the time, and it sounds like me calling him when i'm angry.
8. These days, you ask for susu all the time.. Possibly twice in an hour. You diapers are always soaked.
9. When you ask for susu, you beg and beg, half crying.. but when i say okay, and i start moving to the kitchen, you smile with your tongue sticking out, in such a cheeky way.. a sign that you succeed perhaps?
10. When susu is ready, you'll run to me and hug my legs.. auww.. i love that.. Thank you princess! Makes me wanna make susu all the time .. (hehe, not really).
11. You always say "atik" means cantik, no matter what i wear.. Kecik2 dah pandai nak amik hati..
12. Sometimes you defend abang, sometimes you defend me, depends on why i scold abang for.
13. You have never kissed me or anyone else for that matter, because everytime we ask yo to kiss, all we get is your cheek to be kissed.
14. When mama and papa go for prayers at IKEA or any shopping malls, we took one of you. When we meet up again, you and abang will run to each other and hug.. ?? Lamanyer terpisah ye..
15. Two commercials' songs you cannot stay still when they are on are MYEG and Worldcup on Astro.
16. You dance like happy feet.. so fast.
17. When you read a book, instead of me asking you what this and that was, you are like a teacher asking me in a test. Who's the one learning actually?
18. Your reaction towards water and wind is the same.. excitement!
19. You like to eat by yourself. which is little which is worrying.. Whenever i feed you these days, you'd say pedas.. which is ridiculous. I think you are confused between panas and pedas.
20. You love mama, papa and abang.. don't you?! (so running out of ideas)
2. You weighed 2.3kg at birth.. so tiny weeny.. huhu..
3. At birth, when we hold you upright, you liked to throw your body backwards.. like a somersault.
4. I think you'll be a good swimmer, cos you crawled so swiftly as if you were in water..
5. Your words are: Aepin- airplane, Aepen- Elephant, Mama, Papa, Abang, Anis- Danish, Nenek, Tukpa, TukMa, Baby, Cucu-susu, Cartoon, atit - Sakit, Atuh - Jatuh.
6. Your favourite telling people off phrase is "Don't touch!".
7. You call Abang in a special intonation: Aaabang.. all the time, and it sounds like me calling him when i'm angry.
8. These days, you ask for susu all the time.. Possibly twice in an hour. You diapers are always soaked.
9. When you ask for susu, you beg and beg, half crying.. but when i say okay, and i start moving to the kitchen, you smile with your tongue sticking out, in such a cheeky way.. a sign that you succeed perhaps?
10. When susu is ready, you'll run to me and hug my legs.. auww.. i love that.. Thank you princess! Makes me wanna make susu all the time .. (hehe, not really).
11. You always say "atik" means cantik, no matter what i wear.. Kecik2 dah pandai nak amik hati..
12. Sometimes you defend abang, sometimes you defend me, depends on why i scold abang for.
13. You have never kissed me or anyone else for that matter, because everytime we ask yo to kiss, all we get is your cheek to be kissed.
14. When mama and papa go for prayers at IKEA or any shopping malls, we took one of you. When we meet up again, you and abang will run to each other and hug.. ?? Lamanyer terpisah ye..
15. Two commercials' songs you cannot stay still when they are on are MYEG and Worldcup on Astro.
16. You dance like happy feet.. so fast.
17. When you read a book, instead of me asking you what this and that was, you are like a teacher asking me in a test. Who's the one learning actually?
18. Your reaction towards water and wind is the same.. excitement!
19. You like to eat by yourself. which is little which is worrying.. Whenever i feed you these days, you'd say pedas.. which is ridiculous. I think you are confused between panas and pedas.
20. You love mama, papa and abang.. don't you?! (so running out of ideas)
Monday, June 28, 2010
Scouting
Went around the area looking for preschool for whoelse..
Found the PASTI and CIC that i was researching.. As expected. Not too appealing.
Danish was getting agitated, cos he realized what we were doing. Many tsk..tsk.. and i'm sleepy, nak balik stuff.. The thing is, since the preschool is house-based, they look so much like his last nursery. I got so worried.. I know that once he is started, hopefully it will crash all his previous thoughts.. We got to get it right this time. Last time was a mistake, which i don't want to repeat. When it comes to kids, only their papas and mamas have good interests.
Found the PASTI and CIC that i was researching.. As expected. Not too appealing.
Danish was getting agitated, cos he realized what we were doing. Many tsk..tsk.. and i'm sleepy, nak balik stuff.. The thing is, since the preschool is house-based, they look so much like his last nursery. I got so worried.. I know that once he is started, hopefully it will crash all his previous thoughts.. We got to get it right this time. Last time was a mistake, which i don't want to repeat. When it comes to kids, only their papas and mamas have good interests.
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