I am reading this book called "How to talk so kids will listen, and listen so kids will talk" by Faber and Mazlish. It's a great book to read as a parent. As your child grows, you'll start encountering different scenarios and sometimes, or most of the time, you react as you'd always would. Me, being me, lacking in patience sometimes.. i realise i'm so not perfect, and maybe a danger to my kids, as i'm teaching them things they aren't supposed to do. It's frustrating, at certain times, i feel hopeless.
But, it's helping, this book, and it's liberating. Several times i did like what the author said, and i saw that it really2 worked, instantly. you'll see the result immediately, so you know you are on the right track! That's why i'm recommending.
Last week, Yaya's class has been changed to a new time, that does not suit hubby's timetable. But, because we'd rather go to this class, i had to bring Danish along. The arrangement was, that he would play in the toy room while we were having the class. Only after abt 10 minutes, he was already looking for me, and crying, thinking that he had been left behind. So, he joined the class. Of course it couldn't work, he's a distraction to Yaya. So i had to come up with a solution for this week.
Right after class, i talked with him, using the skills taught in the book.
Well, Danish, even though he's just 4, this is why i love this book, really you can talk to any of your children like adults.. no matter what their age. I asked that we both come up with ideas to solve the problem, really he can't be joining the class. And he did come up with ideas, eventhough i think we might not have come up with a viable solution, i think he'd understand the situation. That he needed to be outside doing something else. At the end of our discussion, i thought why don't i bring our laptop to the school so that he can play with his games. When he's playing games, time will just fly.
However, at the point we came to that solution, i was pretty okay abt him playing games. Yesterday, i came to realise, games, no matter what skills it teaches your children, is so addictive that it diminishes any advantages. So, last week's solution, well i have to still make it happen. Maybe i should asked for the class to change its time.
